It took me two years to arrive at this point to be able to write a bit about my experience with empty nesting. I dropped the youngest off to university, came home and fell apart. Talk about unprepared. I was not expecting to feel the way I did; sadness, nostalgia, loneliness, confusion, and more. This was the beginning of my empty nest phase, a time often met with – like the kids say – all the feelings.

Long, old story short, I’ve been mothering since I was eighteen, and for the first time, I had to navigate life without at least one of my daughters at home. My entire adult life revolved around caring for these two humans I birthed. I had to face the fact that though I will always be Synead’s and Zoe’s mother, I am also Dixie, me — a separate individual who needed to be in awareness of my new circumstances, acknowledge the changes and take action for my well-being.

Now, two years later, after allowing myself to slowly and lovingly move through the emotions that surfaced, my perspective on empty-nesting has changed.

Somewhere along the way, I began to see the process for what it truly is (at least for me): something exciting and new rather than sad and final. It’s not an ending; it’s a transformation. So I asked myself, “Dixie, what do you want, and what do you need to do to achieve that?”

And the answers slowly came. One day I heard an internal voice whisper to me, “Girl, you better start envisioning what your empty nest could look like.” That was it! That’s what I needed to hear. And almost immediately I began to drift away from the syndrome of empty nest to the new wholesome and empowered concept of Envision Nest. I’ve been given this opportunity to transform my life and existence in this world. You know the old saying, “change is the only constant.”

So here I am now. Flowing through this phase of new found freedom and independence, considering all the possibilities and my options, and taking necessary action.

I felt it was important to share this with my community as I know many are on this journey. In fact, a few days ago, someone shared with me on Tik Tok that she cries every day because she misses her children so much. That was the inspiration to write the post, especially because I am now on the other side of the challenges I faced. So here are some of the ways in which I’m currently envisioning my nest. Perhaps these can help you too.

Cherish The Memories

Before I dive into the new possibilities, please know that it’s important to honor the journey that brought you here (to empty nesting). Your home has been a place of laughter, growth, trials and tribulations, countless memories, and perhaps more. Take a moment to reflect on those cherished times.

Also, consider creating a scrapbook or a memory wall with photos and mementos to celebrate that chapter of your life. I have tons of albums with memories.

Redefine Your Space

With the house/living space a bit quieter now, you have the opportunity to redefine your space. Have you always wanted a cozy reading nook? Perhaps you’ve dreamt of new paint or wallpaper, pulling up the carpet, or a prayer room or corner. Now is the perfect time to turn these visions into reality. Start with one room, and let your creativity flow.

This isn’t just about redecorating; it’s about making your home a true reflection of your interests and aspirations. I’m starting with my powder room, then painting the entire house, adding wallpaper, and so much more. I’ll be sharing pics later.

My husband and I are also enjoying our living space as we see fit. And that looks like sleeping wherever we want to in our home: in the basement room, in any of the bedrooms, on the sofa in family room or living room – by our selves or together….LOL. Soon we’ll be pitching a tent and sleeping on the deck. And that’s our prerogative.

Revisit Old Passions and Discover New Ones

Remember those hobbies and passions you set aside while raising your children? Whether it was painting, gardening, writing, or dancing, now is your chance to dive back in. Alternatively, this can be a time to explore new interests. Enroll in a cooking class, join a book club, or learn a new language. The possibilities are endless, and each new experience adds richness to this new phase of life. I’ve started with petite herb project.

Nourish Relationships

With more time on your hands, you can nurture your relationships. Plan regular outings with friends, reconnect with family members, or even make new friends by joining local or online community groups, or pursue a new career. The goal is to create joy, vitality, health, well-being, support, and feel a sense of belonging so you can thrive as you move through this new phase.

Prioritize Self-Care

My well-being is paramount. Yours should be too. So take this time to focus on self-care in ways that feel meaningful to you. This could be adopting or incorporating a new fitness routine, practicing mindfulness and meditation, being consistent with prayer, resting, getting adequate sleep, scheduling doctors visits, volunteering your services or indulging in activities that bring you joy, peace and happiness. Remember, caring for yourself allows you to show up fully for others.

Explore New Possibilities

Possibilities are endless. Travel, if it’s something you enjoy, can be a wonderful way to embrace your newfound freedom and independence. Whether it’s a weekend getaway to a nearby town or an overseas adventure, or even a road trip, exploring new places can reignite your sense of wonder and excitement. Go within and identify what’s important for you. I’ve traveled extensively with my children and family, both at home and abroad. But now I’m super excited at the possibility of solo and couple travel.

Set New Goals

Finally, consider setting new personal or professional goals. And the goals don’t have to be enormous. A goal, no matter how small will lead to results over time. Your goals could be related to recreation, sustenance, purpose, relationships, finances, or restorative practices. Setting and working towards new goals can provide a sense of direction, which will make this new phase meaningful and appreciated.

Embrace the Envision Nest Mindset

Transitioning from an empty nest to an envision nest is about more than just filling the physical space; it’s about enriching your life with new experiences, passions, and connections. It’s a gentle reminder that this phase, like all others, is full of potential and beauty. Embrace the changes, celebrate the possibilities, and enjoy every moment of this exciting new journey.